Habit 5- Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood.
He broke up with me... Over text.
I just really need to talk to someone about everything.
Okay. Bring ice cream and Nutella.
We should talk in person.
It would be better if I could see you and be there to comfort you .
Habit 6- Synergize
So we have come to the agreement that the best course of action is to put him in the squid hat of shame, correct?
Yes. He deserves the squid hat.
Habit 7- Sharpen the Saw
I should probably have the healthier watermelon and take care of my body. It is one of the four key dimensions and my health is important..
The deepest need of the human heart is to be understood, and to be understood you need to first step back and listen to others and try to understand them before talking and trying to be understood. People will only open up to others when they feel genuine love and understanding, so if someone does open up to you it is important to genuinely listen to them and try and understand them. Never judge somebody before attempting to understand them first, since most of the time it will only make that person feel worse about themselves. To help with genuine listening, listen with your eyes, ears, and heart, since most communicating is in body language and the tone/feeling in which the words are said.
Habit 5- In Action
Synergizing is all about working together with others to find a solution than anyone could on their own. Some Do's of synergizing is to celebrate differences, use teamwork, be open-minded, and work together to find new and better ways. Some Don'ts of synergizing is don't just tolerate differences, don't be independent, don't think you're always right, and finally, don't just compromise. Make an action plan: define the problem or opportunity, see their point of view, brainstorm ideas, and find the best solution.
Habit 6- In Action
We need to work together on this, it'll make everything better in the long run if we take time to work together and find the best solution.
Sharpening the saw is all about taking care of yourself through your four key dimensions- the physical dimension, mental dimension, emotional dimension, and spiritual dimension. The physical dimension is all about your body and how to eat right, exercise, be happy and content with your body and how you look, and quitting your addictions. The mental dimension is about your brain and how to sharpen your mind, it also means avoiding mental barriers like screen-time, the Nerd Syndrome, and pressure. The emotional dimension is about your heart, building relationships, and laughing more in life, while the spiritual dimension is about your soul and how to 'feed' your soul.
Habit 7- In Action
Habit 5 has already started playing a role in my life in multiple ways, but the main way it has helped me is the knowledge of knowing to listen more then talk. After reading about how most communication is not in words but in someones tone and gestures, I have started paying closer attention to people when they speak. In the future, I plan to continue avoiding the five poor listening styles so that I will be able to listen and understand others better than I ever had.
I can't believe he would ever do that to me! He tried to lie about it too!
I am usually an independent worker and I have been for most of my life, but now I realize how important it is to work together with others to benefit in the long run. Now that I have more close friends than ever before, I need to begin using the synergize habit more frequently to avoid arguments and miscommunications. Looking towards the future, I will know to always keep the action plan in my head to better myself in group environments, like my future college and jobs.
I'm usually a very anxious and stressed out person, and habit 7's reminder to take time to relax truly reminded me that it's okay to take breaks to myself to be able to unwind from time to time. I have started to keep the 4 dimensions in mind at all times, and it has started helping me remember to eat right and be healthy for once. The advice to laugh or you'll cry in habit 7 is one of my new favorite life motto and will be for long in the future, and I have already started using it.
It's nice to take time to myself and sharpen the saw.