Hey, Clair do you you want to see a movie after school?
Hey, maybe next time, I really should go home and study for my test tomorrow.
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
Mhm, mhm, ya, great..., wooow, ya I'm totally listening.
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Knowing the difference between Important (activities that contribute to your mission and your goals), and Urgent (activities that demand immediate attention). "The problem comes when we become so focused on urgent things that we put off important things.". " The Procrastinator" and " the Yes-man" you have no control over their life leaving them in a constant spiral. "The Slacker", is someone who waste their time making them a professional loafer, unlike "the Prioritizer" who looks at everything they need to do and gets first things done first and second things done last.
You need to understand what the deepest need of the human heart is... to be understood. People often use poor listening skills like: Spacing Out, Pretend, Selective, and Self-Centered Listening. When you space out you ignore the person and completely stop listening, and when you pretend you make insightful comments to trick the other person. When selective listening you only listen to parts that interest you, and when self-centered listen you are basically trying to one-up the other person.
First you need to sharpen the physical dimesion: Exercise, eating healthy, sleeping well, and relaxing. For the mental dimension the best thing you can do for yourself is to get a good education. IN the emotional dimension you need to build relationships (RBA, PBA), give service , and LAUGH! Last but not least the spiritual dimension you should meditate, pray, keep a journal, and even take place in quality media.