Hey, Clair do you you want to see a movie after school?
Hey, maybe next time, I really should go home and study for my test tomorrow.
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
Mhm, mhm, ya, great..., wooow, ya I'm totally listening.
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Knowing the difference between Important (activities that contribute to your mission and your goals), and Urgent (activities that demand immediate attention). "The problem comes when we become so focused on urgent things that we put off important things.". " The Procrastinator" and " the Yes-man" you have no control over their life leaving them in a constant spiral. "The Slacker", is someone who waste their time making them a professional loafer, unlike "the Prioritizer" who looks at everything they need to do and gets first things done first and second things done last.
Habit 3: Put First things First
You need to understand what the deepest need of the human heart is... to be understood. People often use poor listening skills like: Spacing Out, Pretend, Selective, and Self-Centered Listening. When you space out you ignore the person and completely stop listening, and when you pretend you make insightful comments to trick the other person. When selective listening you only listen to parts that interest you, and when self-centered listen you are basically trying to one-up the other person.
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood
First you need to sharpen the physical dimesion: Exercise, eating healthy, sleeping well, and relaxing. For the mental dimension the best thing you can do for yourself is to get a good education. IN the emotional dimension you need to build relationships (RBA, PBA), give service , and LAUGH! Last but not least the spiritual dimension you should meditate, pray, keep a journal, and even take place in quality media.
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
In the future I would really like to become the Prioritizer, and I think making a list and laying things out helps me the best. The quote was really an eye-opener for me, and made me realize how much I procrastinate. I tend to stress myself out a lot because I put things off, thinking I'll do them later, but it only turns out bad for me.
Thanks to this habit I am able to point out when I am the victim of poor listening. Since reading this book I have really changed the way I respond to people when they speak to me in a conversation. I have even apologized to one of my closest friends for us always trying to one-up each other while listening to the other.
Hey look at this new trick I just got!
Wow! That's really good!
I never realized how much reading the headline notifications could get me caught up on the world around me. I have started to embrace my emotions more, and voice my opinions. I sometimes start to write in a journal when I have a lot to think about.