Habit 5: "Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood
I'll ask if she wants to hang with me
No one wants to be with me!
Being proactive are the three C's keep calm, control, and cool. What it means to be proactive is how you react to someone whether you're in a argument or a accident. Some of the proactive language would be- I can do better, I choose to, there's gotta be a way, and your bad mood isn't gonna affect me. Then we have the don'ts of being proactive or other known as reactive language which is- That's just the way I am, there's nothing I can do, and I have to.
Habit 1- In Action
Habit three is "Put First Things First" there are four quadrants- The Procrastinator, The Prioritizer, The Yes-man, and The Slacker. In habit three there's will-power the strength to say yes to your most important things then there's wont-power the strength to say no to less important things. The prioritizer plans ahead of things to keep important activities from becoming urgent activities. The result of being a prioritizer are control of your life, balance, and high performance.
Habit 3- In Action
This is very exhausting taking care of them but worth it
Habit five means see things from another person point of view, as the author says the deepest need of a human heart is to be understood. People will open up once they feel genuine love and understanding, but they wont open up if you give advice and judge them. To understand someone you must listen to them first, genuine listening involves listening with your eyes, heart, and ears. In habit five there's four primary forms of communication listening, reading, writing, and speaking.
Habit 5- In Action
Let it all out
I act proactive but really in reality I'm reactive the opposite of proactive, in my thoughts. For example when my brother tries to ruin my day by bothering me I don't lash or anything like that, it looks like my day isn't ruined but in reality it is. But hopefully in the future I become proactive not just on the outside but also in my thoughts.
You did horrible on your test hahaha
My day is ruined.
As you know there's four quandrants in habit three, out of those four im only two The procrastinator and The slacker. Whenever it comes to projects I always procrastinate I can do the work but I choose to do it the last minute, the day before its due but my grades have been dropping so I'm doing slightly better. I slack a lot whether it being chores or work but I got two pets recently and i realized if I want to keep them I gotta stop slacking its very stressful taking care of pets but its worth it.
In habit five its all about thinking in another person's view or put you're self in their shoes, think about how they feel, listen first then talk. Whenever someone is in a bad mood or insecure I don't give advice in what they should do neither do I judge them, I just listen and let their words register in my mind. For example I have a sister who's emotional so I know how to think in another person's view, If it looks like she needs a hug I give her