She just ran a red light! Whatever I won't let that ruin my day
Habit 4: "Think Win-Win
The winner of the contest wins $50, So between you and I who ever win will split the evenly
hmm, ok. That is a deal
Habit 5: "Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
Son, I want you to know that fixing this house requires lots of money and responsibility, and I don't think your ready for that.
I must listen before I prove my case.
When it comes to habit 1 being proactive is a key part in having a relax and smooth life that "flows like water." It is possible to tell if someone is proactive by the language they use: i'll do it, I choose to, i can do better than that, etc. The "Victimitis Virus" separates proactive and reactive people by their reaction because proactive people wouldn't be as easily offended and they would take responsibility for their action. There are certain things that we can't control in life such as our skin color, weather, past mistakes and more; proactive people understand that while reactive people don't.
Habit 1: "Be Proactive"
*push pause* ok so how do I want to react to this situation
The term win-win means an attitude towards life that says "I can win and so can you;" win-lose, lose-win, and lose-lose are all mentalities toward life. The term win-win is the only positive term out of the four, for example, the term win-lose and lose-win means that one or more person comes out with the short end of the stick and lose-lose means that no one wins. The are two habits known as the "Tumor Twins"; competing is considered healthy when it comes to yourself, but comparing can lead to an addiction when it comes to others. When you and someone gets into a quarrel and neither you or the other person can come to an agreement, sometimes it is better to take "no deal"; decide not to play.
Habit 4: "Think Win-Win
Habit five is all about listening first, and then to talk second; people will open up to you when they feel genuine love and understanding. Though listening is keen there are five poor listening skills: spacing out, pretend listening, selective listening, word listening, and self-centered listening. The term mirroring means repeat back in your own words what another person is saying. The greatest fear that most people have is speaking in public; it is important to give feedback using the words I instead of you because it sounds less threatening and doesn't seem as if you are blaming them.
Habit 5: "Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood"
Before learning about this habit I used to get aggressive easily; the habit has helped me calm down and become more of a relaxed person. The habit has also helped me cope with life by understanding that I can't control everything that happens to me. The "Just Push Pause" aspect taught that by just pausing pause I can take time and think on how I want to react.
This habit teaches that I shouldn't compare myself to others, but compete against myself. I would always think win-lose or lose-win when I came to deciding things, but habit 4 has taught me to try and think of an option that results in a win-win or if not, no deal. This habit has guided not only me, but my mother as well to live a positive life where everyone can benefit from a decision.
I wonder if I should play this sport or not. Choosing this would mean that I would have to give up my free time. I wonder what i should do
When it comes to conversations I am a talker; habit 5 has helped me to listen to then understand and then I would speak. When I was younger, my dad and I would always have an argument, but recently I would listen to his side of the story before I say mine. My listening skills have improved, as I have been taking advice from which I have obtained through the book.