Habit 5: Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood
Habit two is all about beginning with the end in mind. This means clearing a picture of your goals of exactly what you want and value your goals.On your journey to achieving your goal there are dangerous roadblocks you have to watch out for such as Negative Labels, "Its all over syndrome", and Wrong Wall . There are five keys to goal setting, Count the cost, Write it out, Just do it,use Monotonous movements, and rope up. Lastly you should create a personal mission statement so you can have a clear plan.
Habit 2- In Action
Going to bed at 10:00. wake up at 7:00. Every day.
Think Win-Win is an attitude toward life that everyone can win and no one is inferior or superior to others.If you are extremely insecure it will make it hard for you to Think Win- Win. Sometimes you can't meet in the middle and have something that works for both people. If that happens decide not to play. No deal. The two Tumor Twins, Competing and Comparing, can set back your Win-Win attitude.
Habit 4- In Action
Seek first to understand, then be understood means to listen to others and what they have to say before you talk and give your opinion. There are four primary forms of communication. Listening, Reading, Writing, and Speaking. There are five poor listening styles you should avoid such as spacing out, pretend listening, selective listening, word listening, and self centered listening. To show that you are listening you should try mirroring, not mimicking.
Habit 5- In Action
i have implemented this habit into my life by planning ahead and setting clear goals even if the goal is small. For example,doing my homework before going out with my friends after school. This could also count as Putting First Things First. I have also set the goal of going to sleep and waking up at the same time to insure i am getting the right amount of sleep my body and brain need.
I have not started using this habit yet because i'm usually stuck in the Lose-win attitude. I plan on starting this habit by realizing that everyone can be happy, not just others. I need to see that a solution is available for everyone. I could think in a disagreement on what would benefit both of us and calmly talk it out with them and reach a compromise.
I have started using this habit by simply listening. I've always been the kind of person to interrupt or not even pay attention to what you have to say. Since using this habit i have learned a lot about people and was able to help them solve problems. A couple times i have caught myself spacing out but calmly ask them to repeat the part i missed and avoid confrontation.