Gosh.. You'll really do anything to try to talk to me every chance you get!
I'm sorry Mrs. D. I couldn't do it. I got home after practice and it was impossible to get out of bed.
Do you have the homework today?
Reaction formation is switching unacceptable impulses into their opposites. For example, somebody gets a haircut that they do not like. When the hairdresser asks them if they like it, they will say that they love it.
Are you kidding me??? You have the nerve to say that! Who do you think you are?!
You never try to be polite when we are with my parents! Where are your manners?
Projection is disguising ones own threatening impulses by attributing them to others. For example, a girl who has a crush on a guy might accuse him of flirting with her.
I'm telling you, something is up with him. He has been hanging out with the wrong group of kids and is out getting into trouble and partying! Look at the mess in his room! He should be home by now.
Honey, it's fine. He's our son and he knows better than to do those things. He would never!
Rationalization is offering self-justifying explanations in place of the real, more threatening unconscious reasons for one’s actions. For example, a kid who never wants to do her homework will say that she was too tired physically to get it done, instead of admitting to procrastination.
Phew! I feel so good after working out. I'm not yelling at everyone anymore!
Displacement is shifting sexual or aggressive impulses toward a more acceptable or less threatening object or person. For example, a guy could be fighting with his girlfriend. She says something to make him mad, and instead of hitting her he will go smash plates.
Denial is refusing to believe or even perceive painful realities. For example, a father is accusing his son of behaving poorly, while the mother refuses to believe him. She is thinking that her son would make the right choices, disregarding evidence proving otherwise.
Sublimation is transferring of unacceptable impulses into socially valued motives. For example, following a death of a family member, someone might take on fitness goals to help cope with their grieving.