No one is talking to me so I must be a weirdo and stupid for no one to like me :(
Behavior & Impact
What did we do wrong? I don't think she wants us to be friends with her.
Tara just moved to a new school in a new country. It is Morning Tea and no one is talking to her. She feels out of place and she thinks she doesn't belong. This leads her to believe she is an outcast and will always be an outcast. She is using emotional reasoning negatively, letting her emotions get the best of her.
Wait! I think I may have handled my feelings in a wrong way
Tara starts to feel lonely and she starts to let her emotional reasoning overtake. She thinks there is something wrong with her making her feel sad and dejected. Since she felt she didn't belong this also made her distance herself automatically making her feel even more isolated from the other students.
STOP, Think and Assess, Then Decide
Jenna and Sophie see Tara isolating herself and think they did something wrong or she doesn't want to be their friend. The girls don't approach Tara as they don't want to invade due to the messages they got from her body language. Jenna and Sarah decide to leave Tara doing her own thing.
Hi, I'm new. Could I sit with you guys! I'm sorry that I ignored you. I thought you didn't like me. I shouldn't have jumped to comculsions.
We thought you didn't want to be friends with US :0
Tara realised that the way she handled the situation wasn't the best. She had isolated herself and made herself look like she didn't want to. get to know anybody. Tara has become self-aware of her emotions and has come to understand that she needed to have a positive attitude towards being somewhere new.
Tara realised that she needed to not judge others and she found a strategy to do so. Before Tara's emotions determine her thinking towards she stops herself and she thinks of a traffic light in front of her. This makes her refocus on what is happening around her accurately instead of her emotions judging others actions in an exaggerated way.
Luckily Tara acknowledged the fact that she handled her feelings poorly and realised the effect that her actions had on Jenna and Sophie. Tara then went to talk to the girls and try and repair or rather start a friendship with the girls. They all then understood each other and realised that it was a big misunderstanding. They then became friends.