Don't do want makes you happy, do what I want you to do
This is where we learn that if we can trust people now, we can trust others in the future. If we experience fear, we develop doubt and mistrust. The key to our development is our mother.
Stage 4: Industry vs. Inferiority
If we are allowed to discover ourselves, we will gain self-confidence. If we are not, we can develop shame and self-doubt. Both parents now play a major role.
Stage 5: Identity vs. Role Confusion
You have to be a democrat, there is now other choice.
If we are encouraged, we can follow our interests. If we are held back, or told that what we do is silly, we can develop guilt. We are now learning from the entire family.
Stage 6: Intimacy vs. Isolation
Now we discover our own interests and realize that we are different from others. We want to show that we can do things right. If we receive recognition we become industrious. If we get too much negative feedback we start to feel inferior and lose motivation. Neighbors and schools now influence us the most.
Wow, my teacher says I'm the best interior decorator ever!
We learn we have different social roles. If our parents now let us go out and explore, we can find identity. If they push us to conform to their views, we can face role confusion and feel lost. Key to our learning are peers and role models.
As young adults we slowly understand who we are and we start to let go of the relationships we built earlier in order to fit in. If we can make a long-term commitment, we are confident and happy. If we cannot form intimate relationships, we might end up feeling isolated and lonely. Our friends and partners are now center to our development.