It's been great practicing the therapeutic communication skills with my class mates. The skills I still struggle with are the use of reflecting feelings and rephrasing.
Let us start with reflecting feelings.
Saying back to the client what they are feeling, but after they have spoken.
Yes, and the focus is on feelings and not content. What is it about reflecting feelings that is a challenge for you?
What is your understanding of reflecting feelings?
Let us explore the purpose of reflecting feelings:To reflect back to the client what he/she is communicatingTo communicate your understanding of the client’s perspectiveHelp clients clarify for themselves their problems and feelingsHelp the counsellor gain information about the client and how he/she views his/her situation.
I don't want to use the wrong feeling word.
That's correct. Let's role play one example. Reflect my feelings back to me. Restating/Rephrasing: stating what you understand the client to becommunicating. Repeat the content and feelings of the message usingslightly different words.
OH. so this is a way for me to see if my understanding of the client's feelings is correct and for the client to clarify and further understand their own feelings.
Client: “I’m the only one working in my family. My mother, my sister and her two children stay with me and my three kids. My sister just came a month ago and she can’t find any work. I can’t afford the school fees for my own children so I don’t know what to do about schooling for my sister’s kids.”
Counsellor: “You sound tired and overwhelmed.”
Exactly and so frustrated
Oh Lovely. That was not that bad.
Let us discuss rephrasing. What is your understanding?