Why are these girls bullying me? I'm never going to get any friends and no one likes me. I wish I wasn't such a loser, no one is helping me so obviously no one cares about me. I'm worthless anyways.
I don't think I'm ever going to get any friends because everyone I'm weird and stupid. Everyone else probably thinks that too. I wish I was at home.
Hurry up Anita!
Haha no one wanted to help Kelly.
Scene Three: Behaviour and Impact
Hi Kelly! How was your first day at your new school?
Terrible! I hate my new school and I wish we never moved here for your stupid job! Leave me alone!
Girls at Kelly's school are throwing food at her because she was sitting alone. Anita is friends with the girls who are throwing food at Kelly, and she wants to help Kelly, but doesn't want to lose her friends. Kelly has negative thoughts about herself.
Scene Four: Self-Awareness
I shouldn't have said that to Mum. I was angry and upset about myself, my insecurities and my bad day and I took it out on her. She didn't deserve that, maybe I should apologise. I need to find a way to manage my emotions better.
The mean girls leave the canteen and Kelly starts crying. She starts catastrophizing and thinks no one will be friends with her and feels insecure about herself. Anita sees Kelly crying and wants to go help her, but still doesn't because she thinks her friends will not like her anymore.
Scene Five: Regulation
This is a much better way to handle my emotions. I feel so much better now that I can clear my head and process my negative emotions, I should try to do this exercise everyday. Those girls had no reason to bully me, I'm not a loser because I can't label myself based on what happened. I need to apologise to my mum because that was a bad way to handle my emotions.
Kelly is having negative emotions about her day at school and takes it out on her Mum instead of managing her emotions. She starts yelling at her and then runs upstairs to her bedroom instead of telling her what is wrong. Her Mum feels really sad.
Scene Six: Repair Relationships
I'm so sorry I yelled at you before Mum. Girls were bullying me at school and I didn't know how to regulate my emotions. I did some exercise and I feel much better now. I hope you can forgive me.
Kelly runs up to her room and sits down her bed. She starts crying. Kelly realises that she was mean to her Mum and that she was taking her negative emotions out on her Mum. Kelly wants to apologise.
Kelly knows that she needs to find a way to handle her emotions, so she takes her dog out for a walk so that she can deal with her emotions properly instead of taking them out on her Mum. She turns her bad emotions into good ones. Kelly feels better and now knows how to manage her emotions for next time.
After Kelly regulates her negative emotions, she apologises to her Mum about earlier and repairs the relationship. Kelly's mum understands and suggests she talks to the mean girls.
That's okay Kelly, I understand and I forgive you. If you are being bullied at school, you can talk to me about it. Or you could ask the girls why they are bullying you. I'm glad you found a way to process your emotions and I'm happy you feel better.