Good morning James! Good morning Mr. and Mrs. H! How are things at home?
What is most important for Mr. and Mrs. H to know?
Here's the good news...
It is important to build a positive and trustworthy relationship with parents early, and maintain communication often. Inquiring about any changes or significant events at home can help explain why a student is behaving in a particular way.
Discuss the Problem
This is what we've observed...
Before inviting parents in for a meeting, make a plan for what to discuss. Focus on the most pressing issues & misbehaviors that are effecting the individual student as well as the class environment (National PTA, 2011). For older students, plan for them to be present at the meeting.
Make a Plan
Here's what we can do...
Great idea! We'll do the same at home.
A balanced approach involves acknowledging both positive and negative behaviors (Marzano, 2010). Start with any positives or recent improvements in behavior and/or academics. Provide an overview of behavior expectations and class management systems already in place (i.e. behavior charts, class jobs, etc.).
We look forward to hearing about James' progress
Thank you for coming in today!
Describe the observed misbehaviors objectively, and not as a reflection of the child's character. Include action steps that have already been taken to mitigate the misbehavior as well as any insights as to why they have been unsuccessful thus far. All parties should agree on the specific misbehaviors that are to stop, and specific positive behaviors that are to replace them (Marzano, 2010).
Agree on a record-keeping system to track behaviors and specific consequences for positive and negative behaviors. Consequences should align with the function of the behavior and should include teaching replacement skills or desired, alternative behaviors (Novick, 2009). All parties should agree on consequences and positive reinforcers to encourage good behavior.
Plan a follow-up discussion; make a plan for communicating behavior patterns at school and at home. Continue the correspondence until desired behaviors are exhibited. Even when the students' behavior improves, maintain contact and a trustworthy relationship with parents.