Lucy is ashamed, angry and frustrated that she wasn't smart enough to finish the test. She also feels embarrassed because she found the test really hard and others found it so easy. Lucy is now lacking self-worth , self-confidence and self-esteem.
Lucy feels worried that she will get dropped down to the bottom class because she didn't finish the test and everyone else did.
Scene Three: Behaviour & Impact
Omg, Mr Fletcher is such a bad teacher and is the worst because he didn't teach me everything on the test and that's so unfair. I'm going to get my parents to tell the dean!
Lucy has just finished her math test and she found it really hard therefore she didn't finish the test.
Scene Four: Self-awareness
Lucy is now realizing that bad mouthing the teacher was wrong. She was trying to blame the teacher because she didn't want to admit that it was her problem and fault that she didn't finish the test. Lucy feels horrible and is ashamed of how she acted.
All these feelings of negative emotions are rushing through Lucy solely because she didn't finish the test and she is comparing herself to others which is destroying her mindset and how she feels about her self-worth.
Scene Five: Regulation
Lucy needs to take deep breaths and can reflect on what happened and why it happened. She can also think about the positives from her experience like how she learned a lesson so she can act maturely in the future if she experiences that feeling again.
Lucy starts expressing her anger to her friend and starts bad-mouthing her teacher that he didn't teach her all the stuff on the test. The friend is feeling uncomfortable but agrees to what Lucy is saying because she is scared to tell her that she is going to far.
Scene Six: Repair Relationships
I am very sorry the way I acted and I now know it is wrong. I was just angry and I shouldn't of put you in that position because I know you must of felt uncomfortable. I am trying to learn not to express my negative emotions in a bad way and to look at bad experiences positively so I can learn from them. I will try to control my emotions however in the unlikely event of me acting in a rude manner could you please warn me.
that's ok! we are all learning to control and manage our emotions.
Once Lucy is alone she is now aware that what she said about Mr Fletcher is not right and was really mean because she was blaming the teacher even though she knew deep inside it was her fault she didn't finish the test.
Lucy can practice using the strategy of taking deep breaths often so it is natural for her to do this emotional regulation strategy when she faces problems which brings up the same negative emotions. She can also take some time after these experiences to reflect why she acted that way and how she can change her instinctive reaction. New thoughts she could have in these situations is how there are positives from this experience because she can learn her lesson so it won't happen in the future.
Lucy has restored her friendship by apologizing and showing that she has made an effort to manage her emotions.
Lucy is feeling better now she has taken responsibility for her actions .
that made me feel so much better that she said that and that she has recognized she wasn't acting in a very nice way.