X is a grade 9 student. His maths and literature test scores are below the class average. He struggles with group activities and gets frustrated easily and acts impulsively during transitions. The science and literature teachers have decided to have a meeting with his parents to discuss school and home based strategies.
Welcome Parents to classroom. Be polite and calm and listen to their concerns. Be an effective listener but also be a politician and read mood and assess best way to communicate.
T: I would recommend doing group activities at home as a family, to help address his frustrations. P:Sounds good, anything else? T: I would like to book another appointment with our behavior specialist to look at coping techniques. P: I am worried that it may be too much for him. T: Don’t worry, we will introduce these techniques at his pace. Parent: Okay Teacher: We are a team and everything we do is to help your son.
Sandwich method: Start with positive comments, raise concerns about grades and behaviour, say you value child's contribution to class
Teacher:What can you see? Parent: Someone who does not know what they are doing and is struggling. T:What else can you see? The parents pause because they are not sure what to say…… T: Look at the areas where your son does understand his work. He is capable of working in a group and we can come up with techniques to help. P:What do you suggest?
Teacher: Remember, every student goes through a challenge in school and that is what creates their unique character. Your son is going through a phase and with our collective effort of positive reinforcement I believe he will come out a stronger and more confident young man. My door is always open if you need anything and I can only see a positive outcome from this point forward. P. Thank you so much