This is really hard, I should be getting this since everyone else is. I'm so stupid!
I'll never be good enough!
Behavior and Impact
I wonder if Lauren is ok... Did I do something wrong?
Oh I'll never get this! I'm such a disappointment! Oh my god, even Barbara gets it! How come she gets it but I don't!
Lauren is learning a new concept in maths, she is finding it really hard and is struggling to understand it when everyone else around her is getting it even Barbara who is worse at math than she is!. Lauren is thinking she is stupid and a disappointment since she can't get it and is labeling herself these things. She is thinking she'll never understand it and will never understand anything in maths again. She just pretends she understands it, so no one notices.
Hold on, this sort of attitude is getting me nowhere. I'm letting my emotions get the best of me. Poor Barbara thinks I'm only angry at her.
Right now Lauren is starting to feel worried, panicked, stupid and angry. She feels like she's not good enough and dumb since she can't get it like everyone else. Lauren is starting to slouch in a tired way and feels like she wants to give up. Her face is looking sad and she is stressing out. She just wants to leave the class.
I need to take a few deep breaths and calm down. I could even do some meditation to help me calm down. I should also ask for help.
Lauren is getting angry at everyone who gets it but is glaring at Babara who gets it so easily and is her friend. Barbara sees this and starts to wonder what's wrong and if she did something. Lauren feels this is too much and walks out.
Hey Barbara, I just wanted to say I was sorry for seeming angry at you, I was just annoyed that I couldn't understand the maths and everyone else could. Is it possible if you could help me?
Lauren starts to realise that her emotions are getting the best of her. She knows that continuing to show these emotions and not do anything about it won't help. Lauren is concerned about her friendship with Barbara and that moping around isn't gonna help her learn the math. Lauren realises that poor Barbara doesn't even know why she's glaring at her!
Lauren thinks about some strategies that could help her regulate her emotions. One is meditation, she decides she could use this everytime she starts to feel angry or stressed.
Lauren goes back inside, calm and collected to apologize to Barbara and ask for her help in maths. She says sorry to Barbara for lashing out and asks for help. Barbara responds positively by saying it's ok, Barbara then goes to help Lauren with the maths. And now their friendship is even stronger and Lauren is learning!