Ok girls, by tomorrow I want you to have written your two essays.
Sounds super easy! I'll get that done for tomorrow morning.
If I can't get this homework done in time then I'll never pass this class. I'm just not good enough.
I give up! I'm never going to pass this class. There's no point in even trying!
Behaviour and impact
Why are you so mean to me?!?! You are the worst mum ever! I wish you were never my mum!!
*Lots of crying*
Amber has just been told by her English teacher that she has a lot of homework to do by the next day. Amber doesn't think she will be able to do it but her friend thinks she will be able to do it really easily.
I feel so terrible. I was so mean to mum, I didn't mean anything that I said. I was completely over generalising my thoughts aswell.
Amber is so overwhelmed with the homework that she is completely over generalising her thoughts. She thinks that she is going to fail the whole class just because she doesn't believe she can finish just one homework task.
The way that Amber is feeling is causing her take it out on the people around her, like her mum. She doesn't actually believe what she is saying to her mum, but her thinking isn't rational and she is letting her frustration out on others. This obviously doesn't make others feel very nice because she is saying mean things to them.
Amber has realised that she was not reacting well to the situation at all. Instead of jumping to the conclusion that she was not going to pass the class, she should have tried to get the homework done. She took her frustration out on her mum even though she had nothing to do with the workload handed to her.
Amber has realised that she was wrong with the way she reacted and the way that she took it out on her mum. Now she has decided to do some yoga in her room, this is what she likes to do everytime she over reacts or does something that upsets her. It is a good way for Amber to regulate her feelings.
Amber has decided that she should go and apologise to her mum, she felt that she needed to explain why she did what she did. She still knows that it was not okay but her mum completely understands that she was stressed and under a lot of pressure. They are both feeling much better now that Amber apologised and that her mum forgives her.
Mum, I am so sorry for everything that I said. I was so mean and I didn't believe anything that I said. I was just upset because of all the work I have to do.
It's fine, I understand that you are stressed. I know you didn't mean anything you said.