Of course! please have a seat. It was a very unique experience and was a bit overwhelming too.
Hi Christine. I was wondering if I could chat with you about your experience as a counselor on our activity at TRII this week ?
I learned how challenging it is to use silence as a communication tool when you are not familiar with it. It may feel unnatural at times, however, it allows the client to take control of the situation.
Tell me more about it. I will be taking TRII in a few semester and I'm really interested hearing about your experience.
That sounds difficult especially for someone like us who are used to giving advices.
That was my worry too but the more I learned about silence in a helping session, the deeper my understanding had become. Let me explain.....
Oftentimes, the use of silence in a helping setting is much more effective than speaking (Smith, 2018). This suggests that silence is a powerful communication tool that encourages helpers to truly listen to what is being said. This gesture conveys empathy and confirm to the client that they are being heard and valued.
Silence does not only provide a sens of comfort to the client but also enables the helpers to identify the core message as well as any blind spots. It provides the helper a clear view of the client's problem, therefore, creating opportunities for resolution (Lickerman, 2009). In addition, it aids us to self-reflect and truly understand our client's circumstances.
By: Christine Sydorko
References: Lickerman, A. (2009). The Effective Use of Silence. Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/ us/blog/happiness-in-world/200912/ the-effective-use-silence Smith, K. (2018). Silence: The secret Communication Tool. Psych Central. Retrieved from https://psychcentral.com/ blog/silence-the-secret-communication-tool/