Misha, I know you love Chinese food a lot, do you feel hard to use chopsticks while eating?
Not too bad, but some of my friends feel hard and complain about it.
I knew how to use them before I came.
I don't think people need to learn how to use cutlery
Babarra, have you learned how to use cutlery before came to the UK?
James is othering me because I am from Asia but he and Misha are from western. He excluded me from the group.
Due to globalisation, western people drink tea as well as eastern drink coffee. I don't think people should learn these kinds of stuff intentionally.
I asked Misha if it is hard to use chopsticks because they aren't mainstream cutlery in the western. Also, I feel they are hard to control if people not familiar with them, even some of my Chinese friends not adept at using.
I haven't assumed Misha don't know how to use chopsticks, so I only asked how did she feel. I don't think I was othering people. Also, Misha's response was light and friendly. We both consider it was casual chat.
However, James assumes that people not from western have to learn how to use cutlery before they came to western country (e.g. the UK). The assumption indeed aggrandises divergence and draw a boundary between eastern and western.
Why did he ask this question? Did he feel offended?
Is she othering us? I have to say something as retaliation!