What about my cat? Oh, yeah, I haven't thought about that in a while.
How are you feeling about your cat? Are you doing okay?
Haha funny joke. So is our date still on for tonight?
I'm sorry but we have to break up. This isn't working anymore.
I don't understand why you're so mad at me! You know the car crash wasn't my fault! You distracted me!
I'm not mad! I know it wasn't your fault!!
Repression is pushing thoughts out of conscious awareness. For example, in this situation the owners cat was run over and killed, but when his friend asked him about it, it seemed to take the owner a second to remember what had happened.
Hey. Do you want to go out sometime?
Denial is not accepting the ego-threatening truth. In this example, the girl is trying to break up with her boyfriend, but he is not accepting the breakup as a reality. Instead, he is taking it as a joke and still expects to go out on their planned date.
What are you doing?
Projection is believing that the feelings one has toward someone else are actually held by the person and directed at oneself. For example, he is subconsciously mad at his spouse for distacting him and causing him to crash the car. But, instead he claims that his spouse is mad at him.
Why are you crying?!
Rationalization is coming up with a beneficial result of an undesirable occurrence. For example, a person who is turned down for a date might rationalize the situation by saying they were not attracted to the other person anyway.
Whatever. I didn't like you anyway.
No thanks. Im not interested.
Intellectualization is undertaking an academic, unemotional study of the topic. For example, a person who has just been diagnosed with a terminal illness, such as cancer, might focus on learning everything about the disease in order to remain distant from the reality of the situation.
I was just diagnosed with cancer so now I'm trying to learn about it.
Regression is returning to an earlier, comforting form of behavior. For instance, after being fired from work, an individual might begin to cry .