Hi Mr. and Ms. Reyes, I just wanted to check in and let you know about some of the things I’m seeing in class lately. Student is a very bright and humorous young lady. She is very helpful when it comes to her classmates and I enjoy having her in class. Lately, student has not been completing her assignments, makes inappropriate comments, and has been overly disrespectful. ........ I’m happy to meet with you, if you’d like to discuss this further......
A student has been misbehaving in class
Hello, Mr. and Ms. Reyes. Thank you for coming today. This is what has been happening with Carmela...
Day of the meeting with the parents
I'm glad she's so friendly.
Never take misbehavior personally
This is the behavior I’m seeing, and any behavior, like this, that interferes with learning is not allowed in this classroom.
Carmela broke the following rules and I will also explain how she will be held accountable.
The teacher plans to email the parents and talk to them about their child misbehavior in person. She is respectful and keeps her tone neutral so that parents don’t feel like you’re attacking them and their student. She mentions she'd like to set up a plan to help them be more successful in the classroom.
Explain how you’re handling it.
Inform and stick to the facts. The sole purpose of talking to parents about behavior is to inform. Tell the parent precisely what happened—or what has been happening—that prompted your call. Leave nothing out but add nothing more. Stick to only what you know to be true, leaving out any rumor, gossip, or innuendo.
At this point, it could also be helpful to create a list of goals for the student in regards to misbehaviour.
Let's brainstorm solutions together
Watch your tone and be a straight shooter. The plain, unvarnished truth is the most helpful and influential language you can use with parents.
Thank you very much, this was very helpful.
Thanks for your support. Call me or come see me if you have any questions.
Note: Sending a classroom management packet home during the first week of school is an effective hedge against parents being surprised or angered during this step.
Talk To Parents With Confidence.
When the teacher follows these guidelines the parents will come away from your talk impressed with you and more willing than ever to support your classroom. And the best part is your meeting will have impact.
I trust her, she also cares about Carmela's well-being.