Sending the student to the Principal's office or having suspension is not the best De-Escalation strategy because the student will not only face a loss in instructional time but also will not have any refuge from trauma/suffering in his home life.
Why can't mom and dad just get along? Why did dad have to hurt mom? I'm so tired, why do I have to go to school?
Antecedent: Victim/Witness of Domestic Violence
Good Morning class! Please turn in your homework.
Here's my homework.
It was really easy!
Teacher unaware of home situation
Oh no! Homework!
Ryan, do you have your homework?
I'm very disappointed Ryan. You'll need to spend your recess doing your homework.
Hey, sorry man! Didn't mean to bump into you.
Heightened state of vigilance . . . Survival.
Oww! That HURT!
Ryan punches the student that bumped into him and starts screaming.
Behavior: Fight or Flight reaction
Ryan, I want you to go with me outside in the hallway to discuss this. Can we please do that now? Ryan, let's go outside in the hallway to discuss this further.