This is a parenting style to encourage initiative from the child and to discourage manipulation. Offering limited choices allows the child the freedom to think about their choices and consequences. This is an alternative to permissiveness by offering limited choices with a strict follow-through.
"Between the ages of two to six, children experience a crucial stage in their development called 'initiative vs. guilt'" - Erik H Erikson, Childhood and Society, Norton, 1963
Yes! I'm so excited to finally shop with you
Ready to help Dad shop for groceries?
Can I get a juice and a candy?
I will allow you to get one treat so you don't spoil your appetite for dinner tonight.
We need this time away from the store se we can think about the correct way to act. We'll try again in 10 minutes. Hopefully we can get it right next time because our dinner at home is getting cold.
Yes, no running, no screaming and to always stay close to you. If I don't then we wait in the car for 10 minutes.
Do you remember our rules to help us behave in a grocery store? What is the consequence if we don't behave?
I can't decide! I WANT BOTH! NOW! NOW! NOW!
Uh oh, that sounded like you were shouting. Looks like we have to walk back to the car
Yes! I will take the juice. Thanks Dad!
I appreciate all your hard work in going shopping with me. Would you like a treat?