Jane is a student in high school. Usually, she keeps up with her school work, but she's been having some troubles lately. Her school work has been piling up and she doesn't feel like her teachers listen to her. Jane doesn't like to talk about her problems, so she hasn't spoken to her friends yet.
I'm so stressed out. I wish someone would listen.
One of Jane's friends joins her in the library to work. Jane notices her friend is distracted. Jane tries to talk to her friend.
He doesn't care...
Jane tries to tell her friend that she is feeling overwhelmed, but her friend is too busy with his cell phone. Jane gets angry and tells her friend to leave since he doesn't want to pay attention to her.
Just leave. You're too busy!
Why is she mad?
Jane's friend looks up from his cell phone, surprised, and starts to walk away. Then, he goes back to Jane to tell her why he was on his cell phone. One of his family members is in the hospital.
Sorry. My grandma's in the hospital.
Oh, he wasn't ignoring me.
Jane feels terrible for getting angry at her friend. She knows she should try to understand his point of view before getting angry at him. Jane says she is sorry and then explains that she is under a lot of stress.
Oh, now I understand...
I'm sorry for getting angry. I should've asked if you were ok first.
Jane's friend understands, so they decide to take turns explaining what is upsetting them and really listening to each other. Both of them agree that they feel better knowing they can understand each other's problems and be heard, too.
It's better to listen to others first, then talk.