Marcia? Who's that? My parents never mentioned anyone named Marcia...
Your dad used to be married to her and then they divorced. Your parents never told you?
WHAT!?!? He had another child with Marcia after my sister and I were born?
Unfortunately, yes. At the time of your birth, he was still married to Marcia as well. It was extremely messy
No, I won't call them.
Maybe I will, maybe I won't
No, I don't want to talk to them.
No, I won't write to them.
The fact that Chris didn’t even want to call our parents may seem harsh, but in reality, it was partially a result of our parents’ secretiveness. In 1986, while meeting with family friends on a trip in California, he learned about his father's affair with a woman named Marcia.
Even after Chris' and my birth, my father had another child, without telling us about the new child or even about the affair. If my father and mother had told Chris at a younger age, face to face, he may have been more forgiving.
His anger towards his parents built up over time. After college, he wanted to cut off all ties from his parents, and to do so, he refused to send a letter or even give his parents a call to at least tell them that he alive and well.