Maddie is a 7th grader who just impulsively colored her hair pink. Maddie's adolescent brain is focused on seeking her peer approval at school.
I love my new hair! I just posted a picture on Instagram and I can't wait to show my friends at school!
Whoa! I love your new hair color Maddie!
Eww. Her hair looks disgusting.
Yeah but did you see the way Kyla looked at me, she definitely didn't approve.
Maddie's desire to seek approval from her peers has boosted her mood immensely from instagram but she still seeks Kyla's approval. In adolescents, the social brain need acceptance otherwise isolation occurs stemming anxiety and depression.
Look Maddie, you've already got 100 likes on instagram!
When her mom asks her how school was, Taylor's responds with "good." Meanwhile Taylor has received a snapchat from Kyla telling her that Maddie's hair looks atrocious and that she's a loser for hanging out with her.
It was good.
Hey Sweetie, how was school?
Taylor and Maddie are 7th graders who are getting ready to sit down for lunch. Taylor and Maddie are great friends and Taylor loves Maddie's Hair while Kyla strongly disapproves.
Taylor doesn't tell her mom because Taylor's adolescent brain also needs social acceptance. She also doesn't want to bear her problem to anyone else and so instead she isolates herself in her room feeling sad and confused.
Taylor's desire for social acceptance is so extreme that she is willing befriend a bully to avoid being bullied. Taylor's adolescent brain hasn't developed the skill set to handle this type of situation in any other manner in which she did.
Ugh, why are you nice to her?
Because if I don't stay friends with her, she's really mean to me.