I grew up with very traditional parents. They believed that girls should wear dressses, play with dolls, and learn how to cook and clean so that they can get married one day. But I hated doing all of that.
I wanted to wear jeans and run around outside. I wanted to climb trees, get my clothes dirty with mud, and play with toy cars. But I could only do that in my dreams because I didn't want my parents to hate me.
My parents believed that a woman's place was in the home, but I could never see myself doing that. I wanted adventure and to be active. All I wanted to do was to become a firefighter.
But Mom and Dad would never support me if I tried to do this
After I graduated high school, my parents wanted me to get married right away. I didn't want to get married. I wanted to be independent and live my own life.
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I had pleased them for my entire life. I was tired of it. I finally told them how I really felt and what my real aspirations were. Of course they didn't understand. They were too set in their ways to ever change their minds. I moved out shortly after.
Women do not get jobs outside of the house! Your role is to take care of the family!
YOU CANNOT TELL ME WHAT TO DO ANYMORE!
Now I am a firefighter, my dream job. I trained in the academy and have been on my own since that day. I haven't talked to my parents in years. I haven't tried contacting them because I don't know if they'll accept me after what I've done, and I changed my number in my initial anger.
I wonder if my parents miss me as much as I miss them. Despite it all I cared about them, and I knew that they loved me in their own way. I always wonder if exchanging family for freedom was worth it.