I am persuading my mom to let my friend spend the night.
Mom, I really want Cindy to spend the night. I think you should let her.
Well, that IS an important life skill that she needs and it may change her bad habits if she learns how to do this.
No, she is rude to me, makes huge messes, and she is not a good friend to you!
If you will let her spend the night, I will have her apologize to you when she is rude, I will teach her to clean up her messes, and I will stand up for myself when she is mean to me.
I need more examples of how you plan to do these three things.
Well, you sound very serious about doing these things ....
I have heard her be polite to other adults. If she is rude to you and doesn't apologize I'll tell her she can't come over anymore.
So she has been polite to teachers and she would understand that being rude to me is unacceptable. Hmmm, that's good.
Her mom is never home, so she never learned how to clean up her messes. I would start by showing her how to clean up our kitchen dishes after we have made cookies.
And last, I usually just let her say mean things to me because I'm worried she won't be my friend. But I will be strong and stand up for myself by telling her I will not play with her anymore if she doesn't treat me better. I will share this with you if it happens.
So, if you will give Cindy another chance to spend the night I will make sure she understands she must be polite to you, and I will make sure she doesn't leave any messes, and last I will not stand for her being mean to me!
Ok, you convinced me to give her another chance to come over and spend the night.