Theories of Romantic Relationships: Duck's Model of Relationship
I can't do this anymore...
You can't do this to me
It's just not working
Duck (2007) proposed a model for relationship breakdown. Ending a relationship isn't a one-off event and there are 4 distinct phases. Process starts when a partner starts becoming dissatisfied.
You don't need him anyway
Maybe you could give it another go?
Intra-psychic stage (brooding): One person becomes dissatisfied and weighs up pros and cons. Evaluates against alternatives. Thinks about reasons for unhappiness and makes plans for future.
Miss Moving on!!
Dyadic Stage (confrontation): Dissatisfaction is now shared with their partner. Series of confrontations and dissatisfactions discussed. Two outcomes: Determination to continue break up or desire to repair.
Social stage (gossiping): Break-up is now public. Partners seek support from others, friends will react differently. Some reassure, some judge, some blame one person, some push relationship towards its end and some try to repair.
Grave dressing stage (moving on): When the relationship is over, individuals need to come to terms with it. Partners make up story (put one's self good light, put partner in bad light).