How could they do this to me? I can't believe it... this is really hurtful.
Behaviour and Impacts...
We're just trying to help her...
She's being really rude, it's making me mad!
Nothing, just leave me alone! Go away!
One day at school Dani's friend came up to her. She told Dani she had something to tell her. She told her about how two of Dani's friends had been talking about her behind her back in front of other people.
Dani didn't know why this had happened. She was confused, upset and angry. Dani also felt humiliated... they had been saying bad things in front of everyone else! She couldn't even believe it - she just wanted to deny it.
Dani kept walking away from them whenever they came near her because she didn't want to talk to them. Dani was upset and took it out on her other friends by being grumpy and moody towards them.
Of course we can be friends!
I'm really sorry I was mean to you when you were just trying to help me. It was wrong. Can we please be friends again?
Dani thought about the situation and began to realise that she had hurt her friends. She knew that even when you are upset you can't be mean to others. Dani felt really bad about hurting them.
I feel so bad about being mean to them, they were just trying to help. I need to make this right. I shouldn't have hurt them, it was wrong.
Dani thought about what she could do to better control her emotions. She decided that she could practice mindfulness everyday and she would feel calmer and happier from it.
I'm going to practice mindfulness now and it will help me act better in bad situations.
Dani decided that she had to apologise for upsetting her friends when they were trying to help her. She knew now that even if she was upset she couldn't treat others badly.