I'm not happy in this relationship, but I can't tell my partner.
I'm not happy! It's not like it was when we first started dating, you're not committed to me.
Maybe I could find a nicer, more caring partner...
This is where a person starts to feel dissatisfied and under-benefited in their relationship, but they don’t say anything to their partner.
This is when a person confronts their partner and voices their dissatisfaction. At this stage there are a lot of complaints coming from the partner initiating the break-up; common complaints involve a partner's commitment to relationships. The dissatisfied partner also rethinks the alternatives to their current relationships.
If, up to this point, the couple generally kept their disagreements private, at the next phase they involve friends and relatives and make their distress public. It is more difficult for a couple to mend their relationship: friends and family will take sides, intervene in the couple's relationship and offer advice, which makes reconciliation much more problematic.