"Teens don't always have a strong sense of self, and they sometimes don't know what a healthy relationship is," she says. "Or, they would rather have an unpleasant relationship than not have one at all"(Dingfelder).
Argument: Growing up, I considered dating an essential part of the complete teenage experience. If I wasn't dating a girl, I had a crush on one.
"When I was growing up, we had one phone in the whole house, and if you were fighting with your girlfriend, everybody knew about it,"6 he claims. Not only is texting private, but because texting is also perceived by many teens as a normal part of life, some do not see excessive texting as a sign of abuse. Thus, activists claim, parents should pay more attention to their children's texting"(Hopkins).
Teen dating caused Norris Kaplan to become interested in Aarti. He was to focus on dating, he didn't realize how different she was. He was wasting his time on her, instead of focusing more on some other people. Sadly, dating makes you focus less on those close to you and more on your partner who is your top priory.
"Fidgeting, awkward body language, strained laughter, giggling, neck-straining in an attempt to make eye contact"(Philippe, 93).
Your teenage years are meant to be enjoyed, they are for getting to know yourself. Not to spend them on dating, and worrying about someone else.
"Waiting until I'm ready for commitment before pursuing romance is just one example of smart love in action. When our love grows in knowledge we can more readily "discern what is best" for our lives. Don't we all desperately need that discernment?"(Harris).
In some cases it seems like a good idea to date at a younger age to have experience, and test how dating works.
When being in a relationship at a young age, it's difficult to know how to act. Always trying to please, because you're not aware of what the other person wants. Usually, they are unsure of what they want also. "Oh my God, it's just an emoji," Maddie said distractedly "She obviously likes you, so tone down the crazy and you'll be fine"(Philippe, 128).
"After all, when we engage in guy-girl relationships, we face some pretty hazy issues. Don't get me wrong—I believe in absolutes. But in dating, we don't only have to make wise choices between absolute wrong and absolute right. We also have to evaluate all parts of our dating relationships to make sure we don't go too far, allowing ourselves to get pulled into something we should avoid"(Harris). Most unsure teens fall into doing the wrong things on accident, and when caught up in a bad position during a relationship the other teen will be afraid to mention something because they want each other to be happy.
"You never have to go out with someone. Of course, you already knew that! But remember it if you ever find yourself thinking, "Oh, it would be easier just to say yes." No. Your job is to be your happiest, best, most authentic self--not to please others"(Hopkins).
"Not only is nothing wrong with you, but you're probably in the majority. A recent Pew Research Group study found that 64 percent of teens have never dated. Many people don't date until their late teens or early 20s"(Hopkins).
Moreover, "Smart love constantly grows and deepens in its practical knowledge and insight; it opens our eyes to see God's best for our lives, enabling us to be pure and blameless in His sight"(Harris). "Smart love" is when you think deeply about the future with your partner, not just dating for the title.
However, in your teenage years your brain is developing and you should know yourself and what you want in a relationship before you start one.
"When I stopped viewing girls as potential girlfriends and started treating them as sisters in Christ, I discovered the richness of true friendship. When I stopped worrying about who I was going to marry and began to trust God's timing, I uncovered the incredible potential of serving God as a single. And when I stopped flirting with temptation in one-on-one dating relationships and started pursuing righteousness, I uncovered the peace and power that come from purity. I kissed dating goodbye because I found out that God has something better in store!"(Harris).