May 19, 2016 was a tumultuous day in Jane Smith's life.
Her boyfriend Sam had received a promotion.
This is amazing! I'm so happy for you!
However, their celebration was cut short when Sam told her that the job required him to move across the country.
So what does this mean for us?
I know this is a lot to ask, but I'd like you to join me.
I need some time before I can give you an answer.
Jane knew she couldn't both be with Sam and remain where she was—where her life had always been.
She tried to see what her life would be like if she went with Sam. Would they eventually get married? Have kids?
In the end, she chose to stay. Staying seemed to offer more benefits, but she knew that both options resulted in equally upsetting losses. She thought she might be able to join Sam some time in the future, yet she's unsure about this because it can be hard to change her course when it has already started.
If I stay, I won't have to uproot my life. I won't have to adapt to new surroundings.