Unhealthy relationships do not start out that way at the beginning. If it did, we would recognize them and end the relationship before it got too far. The changes usualy begin during the "tension phase" in the cycle from a previous activity. Detecting red flags as soon as possible is essential for the victim's safety, and so it’s important to practice identifying potential indicators of abuse.
One safe way to do so is through creating storyboard examples. This activity could help develop the skill that can be applied to real world situations. Have students create a three cell storyboard showing three different red flags. Anyone can be a victim or an aggressor, so having the students use different situations and characters for each cell is important. Students should avoid using classmates or friends in their storyboards.
The aggressor…
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Student Instructions
Create a storyboard showing different examples of red flags in unhealthy relationships.
Present students with short, relatable classroom situations and ask them to identify potential warning signs of unhealthy relationships. Discuss as a class why these behaviors are concerning, helping students build critical thinking skills around real-life examples.
Encourage students to share their ideas about what healthy boundaries look like in friendships and relationships. Guide the conversation to clarify misconceptions and reinforce the importance of respect and personal space.
Demonstrate how to express concerns and set boundaries using role-play or scripts. Show students respectful language and assertive, non-confrontational ways to address red flags, making the skills easy to practice and remember.
Invite students to write briefly in a journal about times they have noticed red flags or healthy behaviors in media, books, or their own experiences. Promote private reflection to help them internalize lessons and recognize patterns over time.
Share information about trusted adults and school counselors who can help if students are concerned about relationship red flags. Emphasize confidentiality and the importance of reaching out for support when needed.
Common red flags in unhealthy relationships include controlling behavior, isolating a partner from friends or family, possessiveness, constant criticism, unpredictable mood swings, and demands for access to personal devices or social media. Recognizing these early can help prevent further harm.
Teachers can help students identify relationship red flags by incorporating activities like storyboarding, discussing real-life scenarios, and fostering open conversations about healthy and unhealthy behaviors in relationships.
A storyboard activity involves students creating a series of images or scenes that illustrate different red flags in relationships. This visual exercise helps students recognize warning signs and apply their understanding to real-world situations.
It is important for students to recognize red flags in relationships so they can protect themselves, support peers, and avoid unhealthy dynamics that may lead to emotional or physical harm.
Examples include controlling actions, insults, isolation from friends or family, blaming others, and demanding access to private information. Discussing these helps students spot and address unhealthy relationship patterns early.