"Every day in a hundred small ways our children ask, 'Do you see me? Do you hear me? Do I matter?' Their behavior often reflects our response" - L.R Knost. Numerous dynamics affect child behavior. Some children display inherent tendencies such as stubbornness or shyness. These can be influenced by biology, environmental factors, socioeconomic factors, levels of parental involvement, parental expectations, and parental disposition. Being exposed to traumatic or stressful events can also significantly affect them.
According to The Urban Child Institute’s 2011 Data Book: The State of Children in Memphis and Shelby County, more than 60 percent of children in the U.S. reported being exposed to violence during the past year.
“Changing these behaviors later in life takes a good doctor and lots of money”, Brown says, only half jokingly.
“Exposure to arguments and physical conflict can push kids into the extremes of aggression or withdrawal,” says Brown. “They can develop a deep distrustfulness of others, or fall into a pervasive sadness.”
"If you don't give me access to a computer and a phone I will set your house on fire"
"I didn't say I was angry... I said I was p***ed"
A child's home life affects their behavior.
“Years ago, it came to our staff’s attention that a young girl in our school was being exposed to violence at home,” says Brown. “She would arrive in the morning, put her coat and things in her cubby, and immediately pick up a baby doll, which she would violently attack.”While the child wasn’t the direct victim, witnessing violence in the home left a deep mark on her psyche. She lacked the verbal skills to communicate what she was experiencing, but was already beginning to incorporate the behavior into her life.
Their sense of trust and safety is diminished, and they begin to see their world as a dangerous place filled with adults who cannot keep them safe.
Kids make their own choices of how to behave every day.
These are just some of the quotes from this book showing things that Macy has said to her teachers. This shows that because she does not have a strong role model at home, she lacks respect for authority.
In each kid, there is a little part of their parents in them.
Research shows that a child’s sense of mutual respect for and dependence upon others is compromised when exposed to violence early in life. They begin to see violence as a key element to interactions with other people in their lives.
When around someone (children especially, for they are still developing), you are setting an example. Your actions are rubbing off on other people. Therefore, if a child lives in an abusive home, he/she will more likely react to outside situations in a more aggressive manner.
However, the people they surround themselves with (especially the ones they live with), are most likely who they will act like.
Our Children are mirrors, reflecting images of what happens around them. So, let that reflection show beauty.