Okonkwo anger causes his family to fear him. "Okonkwo ruled his household with a heavy hand. His wives especially the youngest, lived in perpetual fear of his fiery temper, and so did his little children" (pg. 13)
Okonkwo beats his son Nwoye, because his personality reminds him of his failure father. "Okonkwo's first son, Nwoye,...was already causing his father great anxiety for his incipient laziness. At any rate, that was how it looked to his father, and he sought to correct him by constant nagging and beating."(pg. 13)
Okonkwo beats his wives as well, even during the Week of Peace. His wife went to braid her hair and was running late for making the meal for Okonkwo as well as her own children. "In his anger he had forgotten that it was the Week of Peace. His first two wives ran out in great alarm pleading with him that it was the sacred week. But Okonkwo was not the man to stop beating somebody half-way through not even for fear of a goddess." (pg. 29/30)
Then during the Festival of the New Yam, Okonkwo beat his second wife and shot at her. His second wife had took some leaves off the banana tree to wrap food and he beat her saying she killed it. "He pressed the trigger and there was a loud report accompanied by the wail of his wives and children." (pg.39) After the beating, he told her to fetch his gun, but after murmuring something under his breathe he shot at her (missing). "
Proud of Nwoye having the mindset to control women. "And so he was always happy when he heard him (Nwoye) grumbling about women...No matter how prosperous a man was, if he was unable to rule his women and his children (especially his women) was not really a man," Okonkwo thought. (pg. 53)