2. What a travesty, there is no way I can live in the same apartment with such an unclean roomate. I must clean it.
1. See? Don't clean it though, I'll do it later.
1. Damn! It is locked
2. This has gotta stop. Come sit down with me, lets talk.
1. I do not know how to fix it. It is just who I am.
Roomate encourages friend who has OCPD (and knows it) and is showing the trait of a perfectionist that he has done a good job.(Always be supportive)
2. It is who you are but that doesn't mean you can't try things to help.
4. If that doesn't work out maybe try seeking professional help
3. Try being more care free, treat yourself when you've completed tasks.
The friend cannot stand living with a messy roommate and plans to sneak in and clean it himself.
The strategies didn't really workout. Could you book me in for therapy?
7 DAYS LATER
The roomate knew his friend was going to sneak in so he locked the door and catches him in the process. He then offers to sit down and talk about these issues with him.(Talk about the issues)
The roomate proposes simple strategies first then offers professional help by a CBT therapist.(Understand that they may not be aware of their disorder)
The friend tried the strategies for a week but it did not work out. He then asks to be booked in for a CBT (Cognative Behavioral Therapy) session.(Seek professional help)
In CBT, the therapist acts as a teacher and a teammate to educate and help people understand the connections between thoughts, feelings and behaviors. During this process, the therapist will help a person recognize core beliefs and how these affect happiness and relationships.