Jessica had some weekly errands to run. Her first task was grocery shopping. Jessica despised shopping because the parking lots are always full, making it difficult to find a good spot. Today, Jessica was lucky because she found a perfect spot close to the store. The spot Jessica found expresses her territorial behaviour because that is the spot she is occupying. Proud of her luck, Jessica soaked in her excitement as she made her way into the store.
Scene 4: Tension Rises as Obsession Increases
No one is waiting for me so I might as well go home.
After she finished her shopping, Jessica made her way back to her car. As she put her groceries into her car, she continued to admire the fact that she managed to find one of the only free places in the parking lot.
Scene 5: Acceptance of Loss and Tension Alleviates
Continuing to enjoy her space, Jessica decided to relax and check her phone. She noticed that she had some texts so she took her time and answered them. While Jessica was on her phone, she did not notice that someone was awaiting her departure. Aware that Jessica was done shopping and had her car running, Jimmy kept his distance as he expected her to abandon her spot within the next few minutes.
Scene 6: Territoriality is Renewed
With his impatience growing, Jimmy had enough with Jessica's disrespect and rolled down his window and yelled to get her attention. Jessica heard Jimmy's frustration and was baffled as to why he was getting annoyed. She was quite shocked that she was being rushed because that was her spot in the first place. She thought that no one should intrude her personal space and she should defend her area. Nancy, who had no one waiting for her, got in her car and prepared to leave.
Why is he getting mad at me? it is my spot after all.
Hey hurry up I am waiting!
Considering that Jimmy's anger would not seem to stop, Jessica gave in and agreed to leave. As she was backing out of her spot, Jessica felt a little upset that she was manipulated out of leaving and could not do it at her own pace. Although Jimmy was annoyed that Jessica would not move at first, he was thrilled when she began reversing, As Nancy watched the whole scene unfold, she realized that people take longer to leave when someone is waiting for them and vice versa.
Okay calm down, I am leaving.
What are they yelling about?
Finally. It was about time.
Jessica drove away as she replayed the situation in her head, still in shock. Jimmy was ultimately satisfied with the outcome because that spot was now his. Nancy, the naturalistic observer, noticed that territoriality is quite common and can escalate quickly which is why it should be handled with care and compassion. That day, both Jessica and Nancy learned that when someone is patiently waiting for you, the kind thing to do is respect their patience and get a move on.
At last, the spot is mine.
If someone waits for me again, I will move as soon as iI can to avoid a situation like this