I have to go get him. It is not fair. He can't take care of himself. That's my job and letting him cry and not doing anything is the definition of failing. He's my kid and I will take care of him.
I can't stop you for what you think is right. But you need to know this cycle will never end if you don't just let him try and calm himself down. Sleep training is very important and if we always come to him when he is crying he will never be able to do it by himself.
Your points make sense. I will try it out, but I still feel bad...
That's all I am asking for. Lets try and see.
You have every right to feel bad; it is your kid you can do whatever you want, and if you feel like you should get him then please do. However, giving him time to learn on his own will help him become independent. This isn't only about his sleeping schedule, but it will also teach him how to play on his own, how to roll over, walk, talk, etc.
I'm sorry, you were right. I was scared that leaving my baby crying was an example of a bad mom. Now I know that sometimes they have to learn things on their own.
It is important to let your child learn things on their own. If parents constantly stick around and do everything the child will learn to always rely on others. When a parent puts their baby down and it begins to cry; leaving and giving it time teaches the baby how to self-soothe. Babies absorb everything and begin learning right out of the womb and this is an important skill to have to progress in life.
You had the right intentions. I can see where you are coming from, but babies absorb everything and if we constantly are there it won't let him grow into his own person. It will only teach him to rely on others.