Hey Jessica I was just calling to tell you that you are invited to my party tonight at 8pm but don't tell Vanessa because she is not invited.
Examine the Options
hmm should I tell Vanessa about the party?
or should I just go to the party and not tell Vanessa?
Consider the Outcome
If I tell Vanessa then maybe I won't go to the party and invite her over. Also if I tell Vanessa Lily would get mad that I told her.
If I don't tell Vanessa than I could lose her as a friend. Also if I don't tell Vanessa I could go to the party and have fun.
Identify your Values
If I tell Vanessa then I would be proud of myself for telling the truth.
If I don't tell Vanessa and go to the party and have fun with Lily.
Decide and Act
Hey Vanessa I was just calling to ask you to come over tonight at 8pm?
I think I have finally made a decision to tell Vanessa the truth about the party.
Of course I can come over Jessica see you tonight.
Hey I invited you over to say that Lily is having a party tonight and she told me not to tell you but I decided that it would be better if I told you the truth and we could just hang out together.
Evaluate the Decision
So that is how I knew I made the right choice because we ended up having a lot of fun last night and she even spent the night and I was so happy that I made this choice to tell Vanessa.
Oh ok thank you for telling me and I would love to stay so lets have some fun so I can get my mind off of this.