The team's having a party tonight. Do you want to come over and have some drinks with us?
But the tournament's tomorrow!
Sorry. I already have movie tickets for tonight. Maybe next time.
Does he think I'm lame anyway for not coming? What will I say next time?
You just made the Varsity tennis team and are eager to fit in with the upperclassmen. You're happy, at first, when the team captain calls you over after practice...
What should you do?
You could make up an excuse for why you can't go to the party. You won't have to tell your teammates you don't want to drink and risk them thinking you're lame, but you're just putting off an inevitable confrontation.
I don't want to drink.
I don't want to impair my ability to play tennis.
I want the team to like me.
Go to the party and have a drink. You're in high school and old enough to make your own decisions. Your teammates might like you and become your friends, but you're letting yourself down and will probably be hungover for the tournament.
Tell the captain that you'd like to come to the party but you won't be drinking. You're telling the truth and honoring the athletic agreement you signed, but you risk losing the respect and possible friendship of your teammates.